Dealing with abusive in-laws

Bertha, 39, tells of how abusive her mother in-law was; how she shouted at her for no reason and demeaned her. She snapped. One day Bertha pushed the mother-in-law and spit in her face. She packed her belongings and left, thereafter. That was the end of her marriage. Chancellor College sociologist Charles Chilimampunga notes that…

A quest to save  mothers, babies

Maternity units are supposed to be the safest places for women to give birth, but this was not the case for 34-year-old Lilly Kachale who lost her baby girl three hours after birth. She died from complications that the hospital failed to treat because of lack of resources. According to the World Health Organisation (WHO),…

When skeletons remain in the closet

Almost everyone has personal information they like to hold back from sharing until such a time when they can really trust someone. Such personal information can be anything from an incident from one’s past, a family situation, a financial issue or a medical diagnosis. The question at hand is: What is the right time to…

Out with the old?

Bubile Tinali is a 38-year-old divorced woman who recently re-married a widower. They moved into ‘their’ house, which was already decorated with family pictures, their furniture, pots and everything her husband shared with his late wife. Tinali says the scenario is extremely hard for her to cope with as she feels like a guest in…

Reinforcing the voice of  women with disabilities

About 650 million people in the world-or 10 percent of the world’s population- live with disabilities. These frequently encounter many physical and social obstacles and are often marginalised. Women Institute on Leadership and Disability (Wild) Malawi dares to be different. They want to be loud, proud and passionate; to stand up and have their voices…

Giving value, hope to children

Since November of 2007, Kids’ World Outreach Society (Kwos) has watched lives of children being transformed. Today, several students have realised their value and are in vocational schools and universities around the country. It started in 2007 under a tree next to the village headman’s house with 77 children. Now, they serve 350 children from…

The colour, style and ceremonial importance of a wedding gown can depend on the religion and culture of the wedding participants according to youbeauty.com; and most brides choose a dress of white to symbolise purity of the soul. Such as the case might be, most people prefer a white wedding dress even when they already…

‘Many second wives suffer in silence’

  “Many second wives suffer in silence, and when I lost my husband, I chose to stand up for women that have entertained this,” said Grace Mhango. She is Gwanda Chakuamba’s second widow. She said she knew she was dealing with a delicate issue that was likely to put her on the spotlight, considering that…

Should money matter in a relationship?

  Nicollette recalls the time she watched her co-worker calling her boyfriend after scrolling through Facebook advertisements. She told him what she saw that she wanted; a nice pair of heels. She asked him to buy it for her. Is this common? Do men expect this kind of thing from their women? Is money one…

  As they go about their lives, dealing with physical, emotional and sexual changes, some adolescents in the country are also learning for the first time that they have been lied to about Aids—- a disease that leaves them feeling stigmatised and alone. They have to find ways to process and live with that new…

Glory Muva: Care for girls campaign founder

For most young girls in the country, lack of sanitary materials during menstruation often leads to school dropouts. For the few who continue with the education, however, menstruation means being absent from school for four to five days every month which is detrimental to their grades. Menstruation, a key sign of reproductive health is a…

Big up to the Queens

Malawi national netball team coach, Griffin Saenda eyed a top-five finish in the just ended Fast5 Netball World Series that took place last weekend in Melbourne, Australia. Imagine his pride when the Malawi Queens made third place! He was ecstatic. Before Saenda was removed as the netball team’s mentor in 2013, he steered the team…

Cultivating special needs children

In a big, quiet classroom, a young girl sits at the corner as she struggles to decipher a complicated maths problem. A teacher stands beside her, offering a steady stream of encouragement. Just as no two children are ever alike, teachers have to place special attention to those with special needs so that they remain…

Esnatt Gondwe: Standing in the gap

The loss of her mother to cancer at the age of 17 served as a channel to fuel Esnatt Gondwe’s passion for development. It helped her see that the vulnerability she felt at that age must be greater in younger, orphaned and vulnerable children living in rural communities. Gondwe decided to create a similar environment…

When is the right time to talk about sex?

Every parent lives with the hope that their children will transition into adulthood without unplanned pregnancies or Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs). They also pray against any form of violence or sexual abuse. However, with all the sex talk on television, radios, internet, schools and among peers, does a parent still have a role to play…