How social network affects relationships

November 10, 2013 • Brains • Written by :

Social networking sites can put a wedge between partners

Social networking sites can put a wedge between partners

The more people get in touch with their friends, the closer and attached they become to them to the extent of sharing intimate conversations.

What with modern technology that is evolving rapidly, spending time on the social media has become common sight, a development that is threatening traditional relationships and human interaction.

The more people spend time on gadgets such as Facebook, WhatsApp, twitter etc, the more they become detached from people around them. Some relationships have ended or become compromised because of such

John Chakas is engaged to Annah Vera. He explains how he quarreled with his fiancé over his FB status page that read; “yap! You look nice esh!!”

“She was angered and it was bad. Although the comment was innocent, I felt bad. It is one of the usual comments I make to most of my friends which she took seriously. The incident affected our relationship but we also managed to get it back on track,” he said.

Demetrio Banda of Zomba, a family advisor and a Catholic philosopher, says while many people do not take their FB conversations seriously, they can have a negative impact on private lives when loved ones read them.

“However, with the same Facebook some have found marriage partners with positive use.

“Therefore, I think it’s very important that we limit our comments on people’s walls to avoid misunderstandings, suspicions and fights.” he says.

Banda advises to tell friends that you are in a relationship or married so they tread carefully.

Psychologist Stafford Simkonda said some people spend too much time on FB or tweeting even when they are chatting with their loved ones, even with the opposite sex.

“It’s very important to avoid this. Give time to your loved ones. This has even widened gaps between parents and children as many young and old alike spend time on their gadgets instead of interacting.

“Children need enough interaction with their parents for the better upbringing. However, from the Victorian era through the 1950s, marriage was viewed as the source of all safety from a predatory world,” he said.

Kennedy Mucho, an internet communications expert based in Lilongwe, advises people to limit time spent on FB.

He said this would reduce problems that arise between because social networking has the power to change people’s interests in others.

Living Waters Church pastor Sadiki Sarwaki, who is based in Dowa, thinks many people are misusing Facebook, especially young people and it is affecting their spiritual lives.

He said if young people reduced the time they spend on Facebook, their relationships could be maintained better.

Again, he said children are failing to learn from their parents or share various experiences because of attention diversion to social networking.

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