Here to sex. And more sex

2015 is past us and the new year has just dawned upon us; hence, my decision this week not to picket on the trivialities in people’s relationships, but to celebrate love. And sex.

I see a few raised eyebrows.

C’mon folks, ease down on that judgemental look and allow me to explain myself in this manner.

I believe that the biggest problem with Malawian marriages, and the causative reasons for their failure, is our reluctance to be open about sex. Yeah, I said.

Wasn’t it some minister the other day who accused Malawian women of going to bed in chitenjes and then complaining when their husbands cheated?

I know this is top heavy for a Sunday reading.

But folks, most of the problems for which people seek solutions from BMW revolve around this one problem and can easily be solved if couples were more open and a bit more honest about sex.

I mean, we all pretend that we don’t like sex. But then why do we get married if we don’t like sex?

Because, when you think of it, without sex, adult life would be drab.

So why we just enjoy we just enjoy it while we’re at it?

That brings me to some pretty good news for those of us that are not too shy to celebrate sex.

A university research in the US has revealed that an orgasm a day could cut prostate cancer risk.

You read right. Have sex a day or die. The choice is yours.

According to new research, men can reduce their risk of getting prostate cancer by having an orgasm a day.

Reaching orgasm and ejaculating, whether achieved through sex or masturbation, could cut the risk of the disease by a quarter.

The research, which was carried out by the Harvard Medical School and Brigham and Women Hospital, found that those who ejaculated more than 21 times a month had a 22 percent lower risk of getting the cancer.

But I’d exercise caution so don’t get excited. Sometimes it’s not all plain sailing when it comes to sex. Look at what happened in Nigeria last week when a Nigerian wife sought divorce over her man’s ‘big manhood’.

According to published reports, an aggrieved mother of three applied for a divorce from a Nigerian Sharia court. Her reasons? The husband’s manhood was too big to bear.

Aisha Dannupawa, a housewife and a mother of three, asked the court to dissolve her marriage to Ali Maizinari because she could not accommodate the size of his penis.

Dannupawa told the court that she married Maizinari after her first marriage failed, reports Nigeria’s Tribune. She said that before she moved into his house, she was invited to his parents’ house, as per tradition. But it was only when they had sex that she was traumatised.

“When he came, we had sex but the experience was a nightmare. Instead of enjoying the sex, it turned out to be something else because his penis was too big,” she told the court.

Her mother recommended some medication to help her.

“I told my mother the experience but she told me to endure and that with time, I will be able to cope. She then gave me some drugs,’’ she added.

According to her, they had sex again but it became evident that no drug would help and that she cannot remain married to the man.

Maizinari did not contest her application but told the court that she should repay all the dowry and what he spent during their courtship. He estimated an amount of $296 (about K200 000).

Have a blessed new year.

Big Man Wamkulu