Professional counsel

 

Last week, we touched upon how important it is to seek professional counsel when your marriage is going through problems. Today, we pick up from where we stopped.

Sometimes a couple will take the wrong turn in their marriage. They will become irritated with one another and displeased with their marital state. They should seek help, perhaps through a marriage counsellor before the situation worsens and becomes irreversible. Even the most intelligent men and women are often helpless to deal with what is bothering them. They know something is wrong, they want to do something about it but they just don’t know how. A third party, a professional counsellor can often shed light on the problem.

Marriage counselling means working with the husband and the wife, talking first with each one of them separately and then with them together. It is done in the strictest confidence. Counselling need not be a long drawn out process. It can mean only six to eight visits. The objective is to help people find their own solutions and build up their confidence to do so. Sometimes further help is indicated and the counsellor will then refer the couple for deeper sessions helped with the word of God and prayers and fasting.

There is no couple anywhere who cannot achieve a good or at least a better marital relationship. The secret lies in knowing that marriage will bring crises and knowing too that these crises can be resolved with love and understanding. A husband and a wife should always remember the commandment that God gave them, Husbands to love their wives, to respect their husband. “In the multitude of counsel, there is safety”.