Do you know there are people who have made social media their career? They have turned this noble technological breakthrough into weapons of mass destruction. Sometimes one wonders whether these people have anything to do at all judging from the amount of time spent on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, Whatsapp and others. If it was time spent amusing themselves or interacting with friends and family, nobody would really care. But the pain arises when total strangers begin to hound others, either requesting for friendships or insisting they know you when you do not. I am sure it is not just me who has had nasty experiences and harassment from these social media shenanigans which stop at nothing while perpetrators overflow with friendliness and undue familiarisation.
First of all, while the social media is about interactions, limiting interests to those people we know serves to prevent private nuisances or embarrassment, in particular when one insists they know someone even at the meanest of rejections. This goes out to both men and women. The advantage of the new media is that it shows you when one has ignored, rejected, blocked or simply refused acquaintance. These social misfits will continue the hounding even if it means using different names, numbers or identify to get back to the same person they now has now interest to befriend them. It then begs the question about what they really are looking for.
This other woman, for instance, sends me a Hi recently. I didn’t know who she was and I politely inquired after her identify. She gave me a first name and I said I had no idea who she was. She first laid eyes on me at a church apparently and decided I was the one to add to the list of her friends. After several awkward late night texting and greetings, I decided I had enough and barred her. Just last week, another peculiar Hi beeped, whose inquest of an identify provided the same name as the initial one. I asked whether she was not the same woman I barred just weeks earlier. She did not think so. Guess what, another bar and she seemed to blame me for not recognising her or wanting to be friends. I didn’t care. Even her attempt to using God and church to lure me (upon meeting in church) did little to move me.
Mystery woman is not the only one. There are many who behave in a likely manner and feel offended when not recognised or appreciated for their efforts. Is it a crime or should it be a crime to lack interest in befriending others? Should we accept proposals under duress? Is it hard to limit interactions within one’s circles without causing undue stress to others? Whatever happened to respecting people’s wishes? Some people love their privacy and it is equally their right to have the same honoured.
If people have nothing to do, they must not do it at the click of their fingers, searching day and night for victims. The least they can do is to limit such hunts to other social predators who take chances in interacting with people they have no clue about. Stop the nonsense, please. n