Sometimes we sell ourselves cheap

Last week I talked about how some men think women easily fall for foreigners. They bombard unsuspecting women with text messages in the name of love and whether they are indeed foreigners or locals using exotic numbers, it is just disgusting.

However, sometimes it is the women who sell themselves cheap. The assumption that a foreigner or any man supposing to have money will take care of us is what leads to predators targeting us. They simply become or pretend to be what we expect them to be.

I know someone who assumed she landed on ‘gold’ when a man was pursuing her. Before the forbidden fruit was devoured, the man seemed an angel. He shopped till he dropped and pampered her to confusion. The phone calls almost killed her because he called day and night. Of course, their first time was well arranged—it had to because he had an impression to make. It was out of town and one of the most expensive places. There, it happened and reality begun. Slowly, he pulled away and all he had to offer now was just a loaf of bread which he brought on occasions prior to subsequent hits. Of course, she realised that everything she had received was for his selfish reasons. There was little or no money left to continue the pampering. He ran out— probably was in deep debt now—and thought she would now accept him for who he really was. Boy, as he mistaken. She was done.

Why do women assume a man will take care of them and sell themselves cheap just to entice his expenditures? Haven’t we learned that the men are equally struggling and have nothing substantive to offer? They will lie just to get into those pants and once they do, their true colours appear.

Look, perhaps even those foreigners are worse off than the locals. Because some women have been hurt, they assume someone from a different country will be better. Stop looking up to men to take care of your needs and just then, we may redeem ourselves and stop the flooding of impostors. They, too, are looking for who to rob. They are not in love, but are after something you may even know you have. How many men will you sleep with before you realise their games?

Let’s learn to live within our means. If you want to wear make-up and dress like a diva, do so from your pocket. If you want a particular house, don’t look for blessers. You will be frustrated. We will end up feeding the cycle of con-artists who will perpetually seek victims.