The Best advice your father ever gave you!!

This week Every Woman continues to celebrate Father’s Day. While growing up, your father must have given you advice that you continue to hold dearly to heart. You are who you are because of what he said. Dumase Zgambo-Mapemba caught up with some of our readers and this is what they shared

Beatrice Mhango: My dad likes saying: Playing with lion just shows how stupid you are, meaning: you do not have to play with something that may destroy your life. He taught me simplicity, integrity and he always said the quest for success among your peers makes you whole. Always strive to help those within and around you for it is the small things that matter and count in life above all, respect is the highest qualification attained in this world.

 

Adamson Karim: My father always told me that the only place where success comes before work is in a dictionary.

 

Connie Malunga: The best advice my dad, Charles Malunga, ever gave me is: Have an identity and be true to yourself. Know who you are and stand by what you believe in AND not what others say you should believe in. I am more focused because I listened to my father and have had to lose many people I considered friends at some point. Through it all, I have realised that my values are strongly tied to the family values my dad and mum instilled in us from a very young age. And with every advice, it only makes more sense as I grow older.

 

Chisimphika Victoria Mphande: My father Victor Mphande was simply the best man that I ever had been privileged enough to know. One piece of advice he gave me was that I have to be true to myself. It has been very helpful. He also told me that money is never enough.

 

Susan: The advice that my father gave me is that when I make a decision, I should avoid second thoughts. I should go for it fully. And along the way, if I realise that I did not make the best decision, I should avoid regretting, but rather try to make the best out of the situation. He told me this when I had resigned from a company, and they were counter-offering me to stay.

He said [if I stayed on] it showed indecisiveness. And later on when the new company that I had joined closed after one year, he advised me not to regret. Everything happens for a reason. I used the experience gained to my advantage. It really helped me to move on!

 

Mayamiko Mlangali: It is good to be a father, but not all fathers are good, to you! Be a good father to everyone, not only to your biological kids. Treat them in the same way you want me, your father, to treat you.

 

Chifundo: My father taught us that we should not be failures at school. We had a slogan at home. Whenever we came back from school in the evening, we could sit down and say our slogan ‘we want passes, yes, we are not failures’. We were really doing well in class.

 

Manyanani Mwakibinga Munthali: When I was in school, my dad advised me to stay away from men, until I finished. I did that. Although I was married for 14 years and got divorced six years ago, I am still living a comfortable life because I have a good job. My father’s advice has really helped me. If I had not taken my dad’s advice, I could have been rotting at home in Karonga.

 

Glory Kings: My father told me that school is my mother, father and husband. When a woman is educated, she will not stay on in an abusive marriage. She will boldly walk away. But if she is not financially independent, she will stay on for fear of what will happen if she leaves.