What would you do if your partner fathered a child outside your relationship?

Finding out that your partner or husband once cheated on you is a situation most women are willing to live  with, but how would you react if you found out that your partner fathered a child with another woman at the same time that he made you pregnant? Paida Mpaso hits the streets for women’s views.

Expert’s opinion-Jubilee Tizifa

There are a lot of issues which are involved in this: first you have to think of your own life and the life of the children that you may have. I feel the best way is to sit and talk, avoid making hasty decisions which you may live to regret. You need to realise that throwing out your husband because of the scene he pulled will not only leave you as a wife or partner in a less vulnerable situation, but will also affect the lives of your children and possibly their future. Much as it may hurt, the best way is to sit and talk about it.

 

Chifundo Malamula from Railways

That would be heartrending, but being mad or angry never solves issues. As a wife, I would want to talk about the matter and my decision would depend on the manner in which my husband would respond. I would want to find out the level of commitment between the two. If they are still together, there is no way I would want to stick around but if they are not together, I would want to solve the problem and if possible be a part of the other child’s life. Under no circumstances would I fight the other woman.

 

Mercy Chindebvu from Limbe

I would demand to know why he was doing that before letting him go. This, however, is a tough situation for any woman and I have seen women persevering in marriages just because they don’t want to suffer. I cannot stay with someone who does not want to live with me and I would opt to walk out. It might be hard but sometimes we have to make the hardest decisions if we are to live a happy life.

 

Linda Mandala from Zomba

I would divorce the husband as soon as possible. If he is busy fathering children outside the bonds of commitment, then am sure he does not want me and it would not make sense for me to stay. Therefore, I would leave and find better things to do with my time.

 

Ellen Maloya from Soche

I would not leave my husband if I found out. I would seek God’s intervention and try to move past the situation. It’s not easy but with time all wounds are bound to heal.