In order to know our children better, we should spend sufficient time with them. We should converse with them on different issues. We should give them enough room to express themselves. As parents, we must learn to listen attentively and refrain from interrupting our children as they express themselves. Concentrate on the conversation or speech being made by your child. After the speech has been made, probe your child with guiding questions and pay attention to the answers being given.
Children hate their parents because of the way they conduct themselves. The way parents handle matters or issues concerning their personal lives puts children off. The way parents impose themselves on the lives of their children also leads to hate. Sometimes, parents do not give their children a chance to speak their mind and this irks them.
Despite the fact that parents are responsible for bringing life into this world, they have to learn to respect the creation of God -their children- starting at an early age.
Respecting a child means having good moral behaviour as a parent. Shameful behaviour embarrasses your child and they wish they had a different parent. Even if children do not voice it out, this unruly behaviour eats at them.
Treating children harshly also brews bitterness and anger in them which leads to hatred towards the parent. The hatred might not be seen immediately but will surface later in life.
I once came across an elderly man who, after being mishandled by his parents while still young, could not forgive them and forget the incidents that occurred. He carried hatred towards his parents even after they had passed away. To date, he has no kind words for them. He absconds from all memorial services held for them.
This type of bitterness, anger and hatred destroys a child and robs him of his peace of mind. Such a child lacks confidence in himself and cannot trust others.
There are other parents who areÂ simply too busy. They spend time studying and forget that there are children who need their attention. Some might be too busy running businesses, their careers or travelling up and down in search of money. Come weekends, they go out to various functions. The child is left to make his or her own decisions and often goes astray. In so doing, the parents miss out on raising their children.
Trying to correct such children breeds hatred in them because the child knows their parent has not been there for them. Parenting is very demanding.