When love happens, nothing else seems to matter. Everything becomes beautiful, even the darkest of flaws from a partner. We tend to tolerate each other and even laugh about her outburst or his messy toilet visits. After all, we love each other, don’t we? And it is this same love that works against us when things fall apart.
Some vow to not make the other rest or find peace when dumped or even when they leave each other amicably. They feel entitled to an ex, wrecking havoc at their earliest attempt to move on.
Perhaps we need to peddle this fact; every birth leads to death and we all come to terms with this one way or another. What then prompts many of us to harbour animosity and anger when a relationship ends? Why do some stoop as low as blocking relationships of exes and clinging to a partner that doesn’t want them anymore? Why should exes engage in bitter verbal exchanges just because they have fallen out? Is it necessary to spit and look the other way when exes cross paths? What about those who feed lies to children about the possibility of their parent deserting them just because mummy and daddy are no longer together?
It’s childish to keep fighting just because love died. Falling in love is never criminal and its death should not be reason to castigate each other or poison children against partners. Even when a new person comes into the picture, do not threaten the ex about the relationship not working out or that they can never find someone like the former. That’s not how life works.
In fact, the present may be exactly why a partner is suffering and retrogressing. Change may be exactly what they need, including changing partners. Never feel entitled to believe that one’s life is dependent on your availability in their lives. They strived before you came into the picture. They will definitely carry on after. There is life after any relationship. Even if you make the life of an ex hard, it doesn’t stop them from moving on.
Fights between exes are irreverent. Even those children need not be dragged into your woes. Smooth transition helps both parties as well as children move on in peace. If one ex wants to make the others’ life hell, or the new partner’s, it affects children negatively. But when one relents and accepts the situation, the aftermath works well for all. There is no need to block anybody’s happiness even when it’s not with us.
