My husband is going out with men
Hie Biggie,
I am a 26-years-old floor engineer at one of the private hospitals. The problem I have concerns my husband who left for South Africa two years ago in search for greener pasture. He is not the same man I married. At first, he stopped calling me and most recently he has been posting pictures on Facebook that are not ‘normal’ such as him kissing a fellow man.
When I enquired from his relatives, and his friends in South Africa, they told me my husband is engaged to a fellow man.
I hear in South Africa, women compete for men with men because it normal for men to marry a fellow man.
He is a good man and I am really shocked to hear he goes out with men. Of course, I used to hear rumours before we got married that he was gay, but I did not believe such lies.
Biggie I need your help. I have two kids with him and I am confused right now. Have I lost my husband to a man?
- Z, Ndirande, via E-mail
Dearest Flora,
I am sorry to hear your story, but even Biggie is confused right now that Donald Trump of all people is the president-elect of the ‘mighty’ United States (US).
Who in their right mind would vote for Trump? American elections have really had us on our heads. But just like elections, love is a funny thing my dear and most men are incredibly unpredictable. What you see is not what you get. Unlike you women, men can pull out Trump surprises; sometimes they even surprise themselves just like what Trump has done.
I can only speculate here that your husband is doing what he is doing to survive or to get hold of South African resident permit.
My dear, men who travel to South Africa for pastures green should never be trusted. Others masquerade as sangomas, others as prophets, just to get their hands on the money.
Some even change their names from Joseph to Yusuf to live in SA. Biggie has travelled far and wide and has done some incredible stuff to survive. I have slept at airports and in pubs to save money. But not to the extent of turning myself gay!
Your husband may be is one of those men who are bisexual; he falls in love with both men and women. There are many men who are bisexual and wives out there should be on the lookout because I can bet you are not the only woman in this situation.
So, my dear, just hold on to your love for now and hope that one day he will come back to you. But that will not stop me from being nasty.
Ndirande lady, in life some things, you accept and move on. This guy has chosen to be selfish by bending backwards for money. You are not a cheap woman to compete for a man with a man. Who the hell does he think he is?
