Hey Biggie,
Big Man Wamkulu, sometimes you are forced to ask the queerest questions. I am a man in a stable marriage, but now and again I am being coaxed by curvaceous single ladies who give me heart palpitations when I talk to them. I don’t know what they are seeing in me because I am a simple, honest family person who has been in marriage for close to 10 years. What are they looking for in me? If it is money, I am an average income earner, which rules out money being the reason they are after me. Should I allow temptation to get the better of me?
Please help BMW,
Mozzy,
Area 43, LL.
Mozzy,
First of all, congratulations on reaching nearly ten years in marriage! But let us address this “guild” of curvaceous women currently haunting your waking hours in Area 43.
You ask what they see in you if it isn’t a thick wallet. My friend, you are underestimating the currency of a 10-year married man.
In today’s dating market, a stable, well-groomed, responsible married man is like a gold mine to certain single women even without millions in his bank account. Do you know why? Because 10 years of marriage have refined you! You don’t smell like desperation, you know how to listen, you don’t play silly boyish games, and most importantly, you carry the ultimate badge of honour: another woman has already vetted you and found you usable for a decade.
To some, you represent low-maintenance companionship with zero drama of asking for marriage, while to others, it is simply the thrill of testing whether your 10-year ring can be shaken.
Now, as for your question: “Should I allow temptation to get the better of me?”
Mozzy, are you seriously asking if you should exchange a stable, 10-year home for a few moments of heart palpitations?
Let me tell you how that story ends. The moment you yield to those “curves,” three things will happen instantly: Your “average income” will suddenly be expected to fund high-end dinners, airtime, and impromptu weekend getaways in Salima. The same smooth, unbothered vibe you carry right now will turn into sweat and anxiety every time your phone chimes near your wife.
You will realise too late that while curves are easy to admire from afar, rebuilding a shattered home and lost trust takes a lifetime.
If those palpitations get too intense when you talk to them, do what wise men do: increase the distance. Reduce the idle chit-chat, keep conversations strictly professional or brief, and redirect that extra energy into taking your wife out to rekindle whatever made you stick around for 10 years in the first place.
Don’t trade a permanent fortress for a temporary tent, my friend. Koma ngati mukufuna kuona moto weniweni, atsatireni amenewo!
BMW
