Focus on healthy relationships

We are still on the subject of healthy relationships. Like I stated last week, relationship = life, no relationship = no life. Just think deeply for a moment, what we are, what we long to be, who we are, why we do what we do all stems from this inner longing to relate. The success of any person will depend on the depth of one’s relationship with the other people involved. For example, being a pastor, for me to move from good to great will depend on my relationship with the people around me. I need to make a commitment to that relationship, and ensure that it is healthy for it to yield results. That means investing one’s attention and energy in it more profoundly because now you experience ownership of that relationship.

And do you know something? Healthy relationships are the fertile soil from which all advancement, all success, all achievement in real life grows. You underestimate this fact at your own peril.

Dear ones, a healthy relationship is like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold onto some of it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too possessively, the relationships slips away and is lost. May you cherish your relationships.

Finally, let me ask you a few questions   – “Do you want a successful career or a close relationship with your family? Do you want money or meaning in your life? Do you want to earn a fortune or do the work you love?” I am sure you have answered ‘both’ to all those questions! Poor people always choose one, rich people choose both. May you be rich in your choice of relationships. n