Dear BMW,
I am a single mother of an 8-year-old girl. I am now dating a married man who sends all his money to his wife and two kids. He is building a house for them, but he doesn’t give me money.
Now he wants me to get pregnant for him. I am confused. I am only stuck with him because we have been dating for a year and sex with him is great. I am slowly falling in love with him.
Should I go ahead to fall pregnant for him so that may be he divorces his wife and marries me?
Please help me, am totally confused.
Namapuma,
Kanjedza
Dear Namapuma,
I understand your confusion, but let’s break this down. You’re in a relationship with a married man who prioritises his family’s needs over yours. He’s not financially supporting you or your child, yet he wants you to get pregnant? That’s a huge red flag.
Ask yourself: What’s in it for you? The good sex? Are you staying in this relationship because you genuinely care for him, or are you invested because of the time you’ve spent together? Or for survival?
A year doesn’t necessarily mean it’s worth continuing if it’s detrimental to your well-being and mental health.
Consider your daughter’s well-being too. As a single mother, you’re your daughter’s role model. Showing her that you deserve respect, care and support might be more valuable than staying in a potentially toxic situation.
Take your time, prioritise yourself and your child, and think carefully about what you truly want. You deserve better.
Run away from this idiot of a married man and never look back.
This man is selfish. Ngadyera madalawo!!!
*Big Man Wankulu*
