Unlike in the past, most ex-lovers remain good friends.
Some even go an extra mile to invite their former lovers to their weddings. One wonders whether it is right to attend a wedding of an ex-lover.
“There is nothing wrong when one invites his or her ex-lover. When the love affair ends, it does not mean the friendship has ended too,” says Eluby Makina from Lunzu Township in Blantyre.
She adds that many lovers continue treating each other with respect because they know that the past always belongs to the past and what matters is the present.
Musician Lulu, real name Lawrence Khwisa, whose songs are mostly oriented towards love, says it is wrong to accept a wedding invitation from an ex-lover.
Lulu explains: “Naturally, when you part ways with your lover, you don’t want to see him or her living a happy love life. Therefore, it is not good to accept that wedding invitation because it might be difficult to celebrate with the newly-weds.
“In my case, I can’t go to the wedding of my ex-girl friend because I will be jealous to see her holding hands with her new lover.”
He said such an invitation could be interpreted that the two people are still in love.
But Joel Chiheni Phiri, a student at the Malawi Polytechnic in Blantyre, says a person can attend a wedding ceremony of the ex-lover depending on how the love affair ended.
“We can’t just conclude that it is wrong to attend such a wedding. Sometimes people end the love relationship and continue to be good friends. In that case, I don’t see anything wrong to attend the wedding.
“However, if the love affair was terminated in a painful and insulting way, then there are enough reasons to ignore the ex-lover’s wedding invitation card,” says Chiheni Phiri.n
