Biggie,
I hope you are well. I am writing to you about this man who has been in my life for the past two years.
He swept me off my feet with promises of a future together. He has been generous, paying my rent and even helping me start a small poultry business. Every time we were together, he told me how unhappy he was in his marriage, how his wife no longer understood him, and how he wanted to start afresh with me.
But lately, things have changed Biggie. He no longer spends nights at my place, and his calls have become rare. When I ask him about his promises, he says he still loves me but cannot leave his wife because of the children. I feel betrayed, because I built my hopes around his words. My friends say I should cut ties, but my heart still clings to him. Biggie, am I foolish to keep waiting for a man who clearly belongs to another woman?
Thoko, Lilongwe
Hey Thoko,
You are not the first, and you will not be the last, to be caught in this web of promises. Married men have perfected the art of dangling hope before women who want love and stability. They will pay rent, buy groceries, and even fund businesses, but all this is bait to keep you hooked.
It was naïve to believe he would abandon his wife and children. Very few men do. The truth is, he wanted comfort outside his home, and you gave it to him. Now that guilt or family pressure has caught up with him, he is retreating.
Take this as a lesson. Love should never be built on another woman’s tears. If he truly wanted you, he would have made the hard decisions long ago. Do not waste your youth waiting for a man who is already taken. Pick yourself up, focus on your business and build a future that does not depend on borrowed affection.
Take heart, Thoko. Mistakes are teachers and this one is teaching you to value yourself more than empty promises.
BMW
BIG MAN
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