Losing an unborn child is one of the tragedies that sometimes families cannot avoid. The way every person can deal with this situation is different. Below are some tips for dealing with such a loss.
Mother of three, Jessie Kaliwo, says pregnancy is one of the best moments couples go through. But losing a baby could be devastating; hence, the need for some time to heal.
“As soon as a woman gets pregnant, she starts dreaming about her child and imagines a lot about the unborn child. If the child passes away in the uterus at any stage of pregnancy, both the parents find it difficult to face the grief. It is, in fact, one of the silent forms of grieving and has its impact deep down the soul.
“Some people think that the heartache and pain at this time is not as severe as that of losing a child when it dies after growing up. However, whether the child was born or did not come out alive from the womb, there is pain for the parents,” Kaliwo says.
Experts on India parenting.com agree with Kaliwo that dealing with the loss of unborn baby is not easy.
They write that miscarriage is not an unusual thing. In fact, surveys reveal that approximately 15 percent of pregnancies end in miscarriage and there are several reasons behind this.
“Parents do mourn for their unborn child, no matter at what time of pregnancy they met the loss. There are different ways of mourning. Many women even go through the pain of labour and delivery and so the sorrow is even deeper and unmatched. Some parents collect photos of ultrasound taken of the unborn baby,” read one chapter in part.
In another chapter, the article further says that the loss of the unborn baby can be different for women who have gone through labour and those who have experienced it in early stage of pregnancy.
“The woman who has experienced the kicks and flutters may feel very devastated and depressed. This could be so because she could be dreaming of her child. Grieving could last few days or months depending on the woman and stage of her pregnancy, how deeply she was involved and many such things. However, in any case, the support of spouse and family helps her recover from the pain of loss of her unborn child. Many parents still miss and grief for the loss of their child even though it happened long time back,” reads one part.
The woman should not think that she is the only one grieving. Even the father of the lost baby is equally grieving. It is advisable to talk about it with the father. This will help them both heal quickly together.
If together you cannot heal, seek professional help.
