The feminine nature is to feel loved and taken care of. It is no wonder many women, once in a relationship or married, neglect or throw away their own lives to concentrate on the relationship. They feel indebted for the many kind gestures and want to focus on taking care of the man. If they are children, the woman believes her life has to stop in ensuring everyone is well taken care of.
The working class or business women will stop altogether or go slow, leaning on his financial muscle to carry everyone on board. This is acceptable and has worked for many people. However, for some, it has brought bitter lessons because in everything, they should be pros and cons.
Just because others are doing it and have succeeded doesn’t meant it works for everyone. Don’t rush to make decisions before consulting each other to determine whether the two of you are on the same page.
There was one woman, the breadwinner, caring for husband and child. Years later, she decided to quit her
job because the husband was now employed and felt she felt was indebted to her. But sometimes love is never predicted, they fell out and after he moved out, she was stuck, unable to fend for herself.
Another left her job to commit to her family life as a housewife. Later, the husband started looking at his life from an individual point of view. She was supposed to fix her own car, refuel it, pay for her make overs and decided his commitment was only on food, housing and bills. That was quite a dilemma and her pain was evident.
Meanwhile, while women focus on relationships, family and children, men live their lives as usual, progressing along the way. They support quality, relevant and equitable education to the people of Malawi”.
Among the notable key projects Chithyola Banda highlighted that government is constructing 34 secondary schools of excellence, expanding and rehabilitating the University of Malawi, constructing Mzuzu University Library and Inkosi Ya Makhosi M’mbelwa University.
Others include the Malawi Education Reform Project, skills for vibrant economy, construction of inclusive education resource centre, Luranga Secondary School, teachers’ houses, Gwanda Chakuamba Centre of Education Excellence, science laboratories and libraries and John Chilembwe Centre of Education Excellence.
