So, love is meant to be enjoyed, celebrated, and mutually beneficial for both people involved. For a relationship to thrive, it requires more than just feelings—there need to be dates, outings, dinners, gifts, and trips.
These are the important ingredients that keep the spark alive and the connection strong.
The question that has always persisted is: Who should be responsible for funding a relationship? Is it the man, the woman, or should the costs be shared equally between both?
Both sides have shared their perspectives, but so far, there is no consensus on how things should be handled.
We’ve seen some men essentially shoulder the entire responsibility in a relationship, going as far as paying for their partner’s tuition fees. They cover smaller expenses too—like transport, lunch, and everything in between—to ensure the relationship runs smoothly. This dynamic is surprisingly common.
On the other hand, there is a smaller group of women who, in their desperation for love, end up paying for everything in the relationship.
This can include buying their partner clothes, covering transport, and even providing pocket money.
In my opinion, a relationship should be built on mutual understanding and love. When two people are committed to making things work, they should support each other—starting with a clear understanding of each other’s financial situations.
It doesn’t make sense for a woman who has millions to expect a man she’s dating—especially one who is struggling financially—to cover all the bills in the relationship. If she believes that the man should be the one to bear all the financial responsibility, then she should consider dating someone whose financial situation is more aligned with hers.
Otherwise, there needs to be a balance of compromises and understanding, so neither person feels burdened by the relationship.
The same applies to men. If a man chooses to date a high-maintenance woman, he should be prepared to have deep pockets, as her needs are likely to be expensive. You can’t expect a woman with a taste for luxury to downgrade just to accommodate your financial struggles. It doesn’t work that way.
What I’m trying to convey is that, while the heart may want what it wants, there are other important factors to consider before choosing a partner.
One of the key aspects is understanding how your potential partner views spending and finances. It is crucial to know whether they expect both parties to share expenses, or if they believe one person should take on all the financial responsibility in the relationship.
In my personal opinion, I believe in sharing costs as long as both parties can afford it. If one person insists on covering all the expenses, then the other should be willing to contribute in a way that feels comfortable to them the next time. A relationship shouldn’t feel like a financial burden on one person. It’s a time to celebrate each other and truly get to know one another. If one person acts like they’re the prize and expects never to spend a dime, that’s a red flag. It’s a sign of what could lie ahead if the relationship eventually leads to marriage.
Before moving forward in any relationship, take a moment to reflect on how you’ve handled financial matters in the past and whether that approach is sustainable in the long run. It’s important to understand whether your financial dynamics are compatible for the future.
